How Can I Help? If I Hide.

Hey CBC Family!!

This is my first blog post, and I’m so excited to share it with you! This post was supposed to go up yesterday, but life happened. If you read my introduction post, you already know I gave the disclaimer—you’re going to get the real, raw, and uncut version of me, mistakes and all. So, don’t charge it to my heart.

I’m sure from the title you can tell this post has a little to do with hiding and a lot to do with helping.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always enjoyed helping others. Whether it was cleaning up at home, helping my siblings with homework, assisting a classmate with a tough question, or even picking up something they dropped—I was always willing to lend a hand. I remember when my great-grandma broke her arm and needed assistance with bathing or when I moved in with my grandmother after she became ill. Even in my struggles and challenges, helping has always been a part of me.

When we think of the word help, the dictionary gives a definition—but physical help isn’t what I’m referring to here. If you’re anything like me, you’ve been through some life-changing challenges, and also like me, you may prefer to keep those struggles tucked away. We put on masks, only allowing the version of ourselves we want others to see.

For the longest time, I hid behind a mask. I didn’t want people to see the real me—the one behind the smile, behind the bubbly personality. I hid my emotions, my thoughts, and my pain. There were things in my life that I swore I’d take to my grave. But as I grew older, people found comfort in talking with me. I would give advice, maybe share a tiny snippet of my struggles, but I still hid. If I’m being completely honest, I was embarrassed. Let’s be real—who wants people to know their most embarrassing moments? I feared being laughed at or judged. The bottom line? I operated in the spirit of fear.

But the Bible tells us in 2 Timothy 1:7 that God did not give us the spirit of fear. So if I’m a God’s girl, why the heck am I afraid to share something that could help someone else overcome?

A few years ago, I hosted my first group coaching session after becoming a life coach. The ladies were amazing! In that space, I got to be myself without worrying about judgment, and I finally released some things—notice I said some. I remember going through a difficult situation, and my lady elect told me, Chelle, sometimes what you go through isn’t for you but for someone you’ll meet later on. Someone you’ll get to help by sharing how you overcame.

Something inside of me cringed because, again, that meant I had to share my business—and I wasn’t willing to do that. But I wanted to help, and I wanted to do what God called me to do… just with conditions. One of those conditions being I wouldn’t have to share my personal struggles. Now, I know I’m not the only one who has felt this way!

On the way back from our women's conference on February 2, 2025, I was talking to my husband and sharing some concerns about a book I started writing in 2024 but later put to the side. I told him the reason I stopped was that I didn’t know how much to share. I knew it was nothing but a trick of the enemy sent to distract me, but a few months ago, I was still too embarrassed by parts of my story. So, I stopped writing.

Later that day, after dropping my husband off at work, my girls and I went home. Somehow, during his break, we started texting and ended up back on the subject of my book. I told him, How can I say I want to help others if I’m going to hide?

In that moment, a lightbulb went off.

I had just come from a conference where I stood in a room full of beautiful women and told those women that everything they’ve gone through was necessary—yet here I was, willing to hide my own necessary out of fear of what others might think.

How Can I Help If I Hide?

I know we’re all familiar with Revelation 12:11, but for those who aren’t, here it is:

"And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony..."

I want you to really take in that last part—the word of their testimony.

Our testimonies are not just for us. They help others overcome.

So, I ask you—what are you hiding that could be helping someone else? What parts of your story are you afraid to share because of fear, shame, or doubt?

It’s time to stop hiding.

Listen, I know it’s not easy. I know what it feels like to wonder if people will judge you, to fear that your past will be used against you. But let me remind you—God has already redeemed you. What you’ve been through is not who you are; it’s a testimony of God’s faithfulness.

There is someone waiting on your story, someone who needs to hear how you made it through so they can believe they will too. If God brought you out, He didn’t do it just for you to stay silent. Your testimony is powerful. It carries healing, breakthrough, and transformation—not just for you, but for the person who feels like they have no way out.

You don’t have to be perfect to be used by God. You just have to be willing. So today, I encourage you—take off the mask. Trust God with your story. Speak boldly, because your testimony has the power to change lives.

Thank you for reading this post! Don’t forget to like, share, and comment so we can chat—I’d love to hear your thoughts! And as always I love you and there’s nothing you can do about it!

Until Next Time!